Strengthen Your Bond: The 5:1 Rule for Parenting Highly Sensitive Children
Did you know that for every negative interaction, it takes five positive ones to have a strong, secure, connected relationship?
Dr. John Gottman discovered this in his research with couples.
But this 5:1 ratio is JUST AS POWERFUL when it comes to parenting.
And even much more powerful when you are dealing with a highly sensitive child.
Highly sensitive children are even more attuned to criticism or negativity, so harsh words can really cut deep and linger in their minds.
That’s why focusing on positive interactions is key to building a strong, connected relationship with your child.
It’s not about being perfect.
But it is about creating balance.
For every time you correct or guide your child, try to add five moments of encouragement, affection, or just a simple, loving connection.
This could be a hug, a kind word, or even just sitting down and listening to them.
By keeping the 5:1 ratio in mind, you’re giving your sensitive child the emotional safety they need to thrive.
Over time, they’ll feel more secure, more loved, and more open to handling feedback or challenges without shutting down.
Remember, it’s not about getting it right every time.
But the more you focus on those positive moments, the stronger your relationship will grow.
We all love our kids.
But for sensitive kids, they may not always feel our love.
Instead, they feel our attempts to be helpful and give feedback as criticism.
By focusing on positive interactions, and the 5:1 rule, we can give our sensitive kids the support they need.
So they can thrive and be resilient.
