Where the Shift Actually Starts With Sensitive, Strong-Willed Kids
Ceara Deno, MD • January 27, 2026
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Where the Shift Actually Starts With Sensitive, Strong-Willed Kids
If you’re parenting a sensitive, strong-willed child, you already know this:
Nothing works when everyone is activated and emotions are running high.
Not consequences.
Not calm explanations.
Not holding the line “one more time.”
And yet, when things get hard, most parents are told to try harder — be firmer, be clearer, be more consistent.
Here’s the part no one says out loud:
The shift rarely starts with the child.
It starts when the parent stops trying to control the moment.
Sensitive, strong-willed kids are wired to push back against pressure. The more they feel managed, corrected, or out-maneuvered, the louder and more intense they become. Not because they’re manipulative — but because their nervous systems experience control as threat.
So when every hard moment turns into a power struggle to win, everyone loses.
What I notice, again and again, is that things begin to change when parents stop asking,
“What consequence will finally work?”
and start asking,
“Why am I so activated right now?”
That shift matters.
Because when a parent is flooded — frustrated, scared, desperate for the behavior to stop — their child feels it immediately.
Sensitive kids are especially attuned to this. They don’t respond to urgency with cooperation. They respond with resistance.
This doesn’t mean parents should be permissive.
And it doesn’t mean letting kids “run the show.”
It means leading from steadiness instead of force.
The parents I see make real progress stop outsourcing their authority to rules, scripts, and parenting advice. They trust their read of their child more than the noise. They stop treating dysregulation — theirs or their child’s — as a personal failure.
And that’s usually when things start to move.
Not because the child suddenly complies.
But because the parent is no longer fighting the moment.
Sensitive, strong-willed kids don’t need more control aimed at them.
They need a regulated adult who can stay present when things get hard.
That’s where the real shift begins.
If you’d like help creating this shift with your sensitive, strong-willed child, let’s chat.
Schedule a free call with me, and let’s talk about creating that shift in your home, so you can stop fighting power struggles and start enjoying your child again.
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