You’re Not Failing. And Your Kid Isn’t Bad.
Does your strong-willed or highly sensitive child:
- meltdown with anything unexpected
- refuse to get dressed
- lash out when you say “no”?
Despite what it seems, they’re not trying to give you a hard time.
And they’re not
a bad kid.
And you’re not
failing as a parent.
Your child is just HAVING a hard time.
It’s true.
Highly sensitive kids often struggle in ways that other kids do not.
Whether it’s loud noises, unexpected transitions, itchy clothes, or just feeling emotionally overwhelmed, highly sensitive kids often struggle in ways that look like defiance and resistance from the outside.
But inside, it’s often anxiety, fear, or sensory overload.
If your child could, they would say:
“This is really hard for me! I know it looks like I’m intentionally being difficult. But that’s not it. I want
to be easy, flexible, cooperative, and make you happy. I really do. But I can’t seem to figure out how. Inside, I’m really struggling.”
When we see that our child is the one having a hard time, it changes our outlook.
We can switch from “What is WRONG with my child?”--to, “What is HARD for my child?”
This makes all the difference.
Everything changes.
Now we can open our hearts.
We can look for solutions together.
As a team.
Because your sensitive, strong-willed child isn’t trying to be difficult.
They’re simply struggling to survive in a world that often feels like too much to them.
We can stop reacting to their behavior.
And we can start connecting and supporting, instead.
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